Infidelity

Infidelity

Infidelity refers to a fracture within a committed partnership, a partnership based on trust and mutuality. Any relationship outside of the committed partnership can be considered infidelity.... any investment of time, money, energy, etc. that is taken away from the committed partnership. Beyond the damage to the committed partnership, Infidelity may also involve implications of cultural, religious and legal aspects. Sexual infidelity is rarely about sex! Typically, what is sought after is something missing in their own life - a sense of self-worth, relational issues, self-identity, self-care, and an understanding of moderation.

Damaging effects of infidelity. 
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Cheryl L Wheeler, MA

 

Types of Infidelity

  • Financial Infidelity

Secret money: incurring debt that partner or significant other is unaware of, and yet responsible for. Hiding funds from your partner or significant other.

  • Emotional Infidelity

Personal Information: sharing intimate details with someone outside of a committed relationship, in the attempt to gain outside support.
Online: typically an additional element of intimate information and/or visual stimulation involved.
Pornography: a) addictive, b) escalates requiring more time away from partner or significant other, c) desensitization in seeing people as object rather than individual, d) acting out sexually to replay the visual stimulus. (Dr. Victor Cline's four progressive steps to porn addiction).

  • Physical Sexual Infidelity

Affairs: an infidelity that denotes an affectionate relationship that may or may not include a sexual relationship.
Sexual Liaisons: an interpersonal interaction entered into expressly for the purpose of sexual satisfaction; it can be for the satisfaction of one or both parties.
Sexual infidelity is rarely about sex! Typically, what is sought is something missing in one's own life - a sense of self-worth, relational issues, self-identity, self-care, and an understanding of moderation.